Fishing Luck in Friendship

"Friendship is about fishing luck.. If we are lucky, someone will bite our lure and be our friend forever, in the other hand, if we are unlucky, someone won't be attracted to the lure, or worse someone already bite it but then get off before we can catch them for good"

This is some words about friendship, my friend Toma, once said to me. I like it, and I think it's true.
The lures : Talking about the lures, I personally think it's the common interest. People can easily get 'clicked' because they share the common interest. it could be anything. I got some of my bestest friend now because we share same idea, same spot of hanging out, same hobby,  etc. The theory is when we have same interests then we have something to talked about. That's when it started, right?
The process : I guess we all know, the process of fishing itself is not easy and quick. We need to know the technique of  when to reeling in the fish and when to reel it out. It's the same with friendship. In order to become best friend, it takes quite some time of understanding each other, maintaining a continuous and reciprocal connection. This continuous communication is the fertilizer to a best friend tree to grow strong. A good friend will be there in happy moments and sad moments. They will be there to laugh together, to share our happiness yet they will also be there to cherish us when we are down. They'll lend their shoulder for us to cry. The time frame here is a bit unclear though. With one person, It could takes months or even years until we can feel that they are our best friend while with another it could takes maybe days to feel like we've known them forever.
The catch : IMO the key to a catch is the trust. For me, when I feel comfortable and ready to trust someone with my deepest secret, my craziest thought, my humiliating behaviors with him/her, that's the time that I have catch them as my best friend and they have catch me as theirs.  

Do I have a lots of luck in finding friendship?
The answer is NO. he he he...
The fact that I am a shy, introvert, selfish, egosentrical person makes me kind of difficult to fish in the pond of friendship.
I realized that, and slowly I tried to change this not so good quality of mine.

Oh another thing, I am kind of forgive not forgotten person too. So, if my friend do something really 'big' that crushed my trust and hurted my feelings so bad. I will forgive them in time, but I'm not that kind to forget what they've done and I called this as the moment when the friend has catch the lure but then they get off before i can catch them for good. This has happened twice now. well, I guess it was just not meant to be :)



Julian, gone fishing...