Fishing Luck in Friendship

"Friendship is about fishing luck.. If we are lucky, someone will bite our lure and be our friend forever, in the other hand, if we are unlucky, someone won't be attracted to the lure, or worse someone already bite it but then get off before we can catch them for good"

This is some words about friendship, my friend Toma, once said to me. I like it, and I think it's true.
The lures : Talking about the lures, I personally think it's the common interest. People can easily get 'clicked' because they share the common interest. it could be anything. I got some of my bestest friend now because we share same idea, same spot of hanging out, same hobby,  etc. The theory is when we have same interests then we have something to talked about. That's when it started, right?
The process : I guess we all know, the process of fishing itself is not easy and quick. We need to know the technique of  when to reeling in the fish and when to reel it out. It's the same with friendship. In order to become best friend, it takes quite some time of understanding each other, maintaining a continuous and reciprocal connection. This continuous communication is the fertilizer to a best friend tree to grow strong. A good friend will be there in happy moments and sad moments. They will be there to laugh together, to share our happiness yet they will also be there to cherish us when we are down. They'll lend their shoulder for us to cry. The time frame here is a bit unclear though. With one person, It could takes months or even years until we can feel that they are our best friend while with another it could takes maybe days to feel like we've known them forever.
The catch : IMO the key to a catch is the trust. For me, when I feel comfortable and ready to trust someone with my deepest secret, my craziest thought, my humiliating behaviors with him/her, that's the time that I have catch them as my best friend and they have catch me as theirs.  

Do I have a lots of luck in finding friendship?
The answer is NO. he he he...
The fact that I am a shy, introvert, selfish, egosentrical person makes me kind of difficult to fish in the pond of friendship.
I realized that, and slowly I tried to change this not so good quality of mine.

Oh another thing, I am kind of forgive not forgotten person too. So, if my friend do something really 'big' that crushed my trust and hurted my feelings so bad. I will forgive them in time, but I'm not that kind to forget what they've done and I called this as the moment when the friend has catch the lure but then they get off before i can catch them for good. This has happened twice now. well, I guess it was just not meant to be :)



Julian, gone fishing...




 

Sickness...

It's been a long time since I've had any sickness. As long as I remember I was always healthy, at least along this last year. Then, exactly two weeks ago, this cold attacked! Along with the cold, came the cough and also the dizziness.  I was completely defeated! I can't go to gym, can't focus at work, practically can't do anything.
I've been visiting the clinic at my office twice. Some medicine given and taken. I even asked for a stronger one on my second visit there. I maintained my supply of Vitamin C too. But none of them seems to worked. I am still having this combo of cold, cough and dizziness. Argghh.. I hate to be sick. It sucked!!

Some of my friend were suggesting me to took a lot of rest! Yeah, that's the one that I haven't been tried and that's the one that I will do. First thing first, another visit to clinic. I am gonna ask for a really strong medicine this time.

Julian, Huacchimm....*Sniff-sniff*

Kembali ke fitrah... Yoga yuk..

I just love fasting month...

I could easily shed some weight without having too much work.

Just right before this year fasting month started, my weight wouldn't dropped below 80 kg. No matter how hard I tried to do my cardios. It's my 'stuck' weight, right at that 80 number on the scale. An instructor in my gym once said that to start losing weight again from a 'stuck' weight is to change the diet and also to change the work out schedule. I think I did both already, still no result gained.

So, When the fasting month came, I was so excited, knowing that I would eventually lost some of those impertinent fat! And i was right! Voilaa... I dropped 6 kg during the whole fasting month. The key was to keep doing the workout, just before the fasting break. I usually did some cardios an hour before the break, to burn those fat. I was also still watching the food I ate. Happy happy happy.. but the work is not over yet. My goal to reach 72 kg and replace those fat with muscle is not even half-reached yet. Still long way to go.

Oh, I also would like to share that now I have a new favorite work out. It's Yoga! hehe.. some of you must thought that Yoga is easy and even not a work out! I used to think like that. But apparently I was wrong. It started when my friend introduce a class of hot yoga to me. It's a yoga class, only the room was filled with hot air like in Sauna/Steam room. I was intrigued. So I came to join the class only to find out that it was a very hard and energy spending class. I sweat more even more than a cycling or aerobic class. I also found out that Yoga has a good impact to make our postures right. We need to strengthened our back, no arching, and also must rely on the core (abs) strength a lot. I watch some of my friend could do impossible move like head stand. I post the picture below. I will learn and I will be able to do that move! can't wait....

Til the next post Guys, Keep a healthy life will you?

Julian.

BO to the KEK ~ BOKEK!

Bokek! And it's just the 18th of the month! *big sigh*

Masih 7 hari lagi menunggu pundi-pundi tabungan terisi kembali, rasanya lama banget ya? 

Yep Gue lagi bokek, not literally sih, masih ada tabungan yang bisa dikorek-korek. Tapi kalau tabungan dikorek terus setiap bulannya kapan ya gue bisa ngumpulin dana darurat yang kata Mrs Financial Planner - sering on air di radio- harus disiapin setidaknya enam kali pengeluaran bulanan? kapan juga juga punya dana liburan yang bisa dipake buat keliling eropa? Trus kapan juga impian gue buat beli rumah sendiri bakalan tercapai?

Talking about spending, kayaknya memang benar ya kalo spending itu tergantung dari life style kita, and our life style's changing depend on the earnings! I still remember, when I was still an unemployment, and was counting on the monthly ransome my mother gave me! Ya ampoon.. itu 750 ribu cukup aja gitu buat bayar fitnes dan bersenang-senang di akhir pekan! Makan dan tempat tinggal kan otomatis masih gratis karena nebeng orang tua. Terus pas dapet kerjaan dan masih masa percobaan which is paid with honor 'percobaan'  juga! Tapi dengan honor yang ngga seberapa itu masih bisa diatur lah biar gue dah bisa ngekos, bayar makan, transport, sama sedikit bersenang-senang! Terkadang masih kerasa ga cukup sih, dan ujung-ujungnya nodong nyokap minta injeksi! Tapi sekarang... dengan gaji yang udah hampir dua kali lipat honor percobaan itu *bukan mau nyombong* masa masih ga cukup dan bisa bokek gini sih? There must be something  wrong with my wallet management! hi hi hi

Kalau dirinci-rinci, spending gue yang fixed ga banyak-banyak amat sebenernya! Harga kosan termasuk sedanglah, untuk kamar ber-AC di tengah Jakarta Pusat dengan fasilitas cuci baju dan air panas. Pengeluaran tetap lainnya, Fitnes due! Hmm... I must admit, untuk yang satu ini, gue bayar agak kemahalan, tapi I like the club, and I still think the cost worth the benefit! Jadi ya sudahlah ya. Others spending adalah perawatan tubuh. Mau gimana lagi dong? Muka gue maunya dirawat dengan perawatan mahal kalo ngga jerawatan. Terus keringat gue juga kan ngga mengeluarkan aroma sandalwood atau musk! Jadi ya mau ngga mau mesti dipakein lotion, deodorant dan eau de parfume biar tetap wangi. he he.. Mana belakangan rambut agak rontok gara-gara shampoonya ga cocok lagi. huh.. Dateng temen gue, malah pake nyaranin beli shampoo kerastase yang harganya aja bikin gue mikir 5 kali buat belinya! *tapi masih dipikir which mean mungkin akan dibeli juga*. Hal lain yang cukup menguras kantong gue ya belanja makanan! Kalau abis gajian nih, maunya nongkrong-nongkrong di yoghurt booth, atau ngga di tempat yang jualan kopi dengan harga selangit itu! Belum lagi belanja camilan-camilan kecil -habis dimakan sehari dua hari- sampe 50 ribuan. Ya gitu deh, belanja-belanja ngga penting!  Kalau kata temen gue, gaya hidup yang Hedon!!

Iya juga sih, gimana ga bokek kalau gaya hidup sok mewah-mewahan kaya gini. Mungkin saatnya di re think lagi nih pengeluaran-pengeluaran gue! Biar ga kejadian bokek di tengah bulan kayak gini lagi...

Julian, mau nodong Nyokap ahh...